Burnt out, bored and in need of some serious soul searching to re-ground myself.
This was the result of working too militantly and losing sight of all my personal values in regards to forming life balance and the importance of following your passions due to a tired, confused mind.
The symptoms of an illness I suffer with called Fibromyalgia intensified so much with the stress that I honestly felt like giving up on life far too many times than I like to admit.
I decided enough was enough, my goals were no longer clear and I’d lost sight of myself along the way.
This was not the person I was meant to be.
So I did the only thing I knew would heal me, my little piece of peaceful paradise…
I booked a one way ticket to Thailand.
I had very little money in the bank at the time but I knew the cost of not following my intuition was far greater than the cost of taking a risk.
I was a shadow on myself and could no longer see past the foggy haze of my exhausted mental state.
As always, my intuition was correct and the Universe was guiding me, it’s safe to say, it was the best decision I could have ever made.
Energy regained, clarity formed.
I cried lots, I smiled even more.
I let myself feel how I was feeling because I knew that with every emotion I would experience a huge, impactful lesson that would guide me to the next steps along my path.
I let go of something I was working on solidly for 8 months because I realised when I got here was sucking out my soul, and more importantly, I forgave myself for doing so.
At times of uncertainty I’d head to the beach just to feel the sand on my soles and the soft waves against my toes.
Embracing the incredible effects of Earthing and allowing myself to just be in that moment, the sun on my face, inhaling the sea breeze deep in to my lungs.
It wasn’t until I allowed myself to let go, follow my heart and be guided by what my body needed at that time that I began to recover.
I’m not going to lie, It took a while.
Burnout is a terrible thing.
The exhaustion and confusion it manifests is unimaginable.
But, being aware and able to get away was an absolute blessing and a decision that saved me.
Now, I’ve gone back to my roots, my passion, my creativity that sets my soul on fire and lights me up every time I think about it and the people I can serve.
When clarity formed and impactful time of reflection to be re-aligned with my values formed, these were my most impactful lessons…
Stop over complicating every thing.
Our minds can play tricks on us and we tend to take on more than we can handle. Keep things simple, your thoughts pure and create a structured roadmap to get you from A to B. Do one thing at once and do it WELL, not a little bit of 20 things poorly that takes you no further. Stop overcomplicating everything, all this does is cause overwhelm, confusion and prolonged success.
Protect your energy.
Life, people and circumstances you don’t want to be in but feel obliged to carry out are energy suckers. People are always requiring things of you, not intentionally or in a negative way but this can be draining. We all have our own ways of doing things, values and personal routines that work for us. Protecting your energy means saying no to things you don’t want to do, spending time with people that don’t suck out your soul and having a personal respect for yourself to know when things don’t feel right. Energy is everything, be mindful of how you treat yourself and people or circumstance that don’t vibe for you.
Always follow your passion.
Honestly, if it doesn’t lift you up then what’s frickin’ the point? Do you know how much time is wasted, depression is caused and lives wasted feeling unfulfilled because people settle for a “comfortable” life or are too lazy to seek out and pursue what they love? It’s upsetting. I stood with my feet in the sand looking out to sea and realised I had fallen so out of balance because I was no longer following any of my passions, I was doing things that didn’t align with me so always felt exhausted. As Nelson Mandela quotes, ‘There is no passion to be found in settling for a life less than the one you are capable of living.’ Always follow your passion.
If it doesn’t feel right, it’s because it probably isn’t.
Intuition is a powerful thing!! Energy is a powerful thing! If you feel something isn’t quite right, things are not going to plan, someone around you has bad intentions or you feel totally uncomfortable with a decision you made, that’s your intuition guiding you and you should always listen. From my experience, it’s never been wrong, but when emotion, confusion or desperation gets in the way that can sometimes throw us off and we end up making the wrong decision. Always go with your gut feeling, it’s usually always correct.
Always express self love- meditation, sleeping when you need to, eating nutritious food, speaking kind words to yourself.
Self love, a tricky one, because despite so many people knowing this is what they need for self care and optimal health, many do not look after and take for granted the very machine that does an incredible job to power their whole lives, energy and clarity. Health is absolutely essential! Mindfulness, rest, positive affirmations, nutritious natural food and no processed food. This should be a lifestyle choice, not a “diet” or something that is done once and forgotten. For complete health, clear thinking and peak energy levels, expression of self love is vital and should never be left un-noticed. What are you without your health?
Minimalism and simplicity is what will set you free.
Owning things, consumerism, mass marketing and a warped false perspective that we need “things” in our lives to make us happy is the thing that makes so many people unhappy. I’ve always lived minimally but after every travel trip I get home and send more things to the charity shop. I could honestly fit my life in to the back seat of my car, why do we need pointless shit we don’t need clogging up our space? When you travel the world with nothing but a bag and you stay in minimal huts on the beach in Asia you’re the most content you could ever feel. Is it the things I own making me happy, no, it’s me owning my space, time, enjoying the simple things. That’s all that matters, time. Own life, not things.
Most people think you need to be wildly successful and have loads of cash in the bank before you make the Nomadic move.
The reality is, you don’t.
I spent around £18 per day to live on the stunning island of Koh Phangan.
That included a big air-con bungalow with my own kitchen, a motor bike to explore the island and food daily.
I could have probably done it for half of that with cheaper long term accommodation and no bike, but I also believe in a comfortable space to rest and the importance of exploring with the use of a bike.
I cancelled subscriptions I wasn’t using and I began to English to children online for 3 hours per day for an income around working on my business.
I’m not afraid to admit I’ve had to work jobs around building a business because I know it takes time, patience, investment and if anything, I should have worked more to relieve some of the financial stress.
The false perception that entrepreneurs on Social Media are smashing life in their first few months and every one is now a guru, is the exact thing that makes us begin to feel incapable of success and put added pressure on ourselves to leave a 9-5.
So my message to you is, you don’t need to be where you think you need to be in your life just to travel the world.
If anything, being away will help you see clearly, be more inspired and aligned to make the correct decisions.
Being a Nomad doesn’t necessarily mean being digital, you could get a job along the way. This can often be more rewarding as you can build human relationships, connection and valuable memories.
You do not need to be rich to live a beautiful life.
Own life, not things.
Be kind to yourself, be patient, be true to you.
Fail, learn, grow.
Embrace the failures as lessons and let go of any fear, regret, resentment or judgment towards others and towards yourself.
The only thing this is damaging is you and your ability to be present, grateful and happy.
Happiness and anger cannot be present at the same time.
Choose happiness, choose health.
Focus on what really matters.
I see you, I believe in you.